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Find your heart

Find your heart

Find your heart. Keep it always in your sight.

Dig into the part of you that gives you meaning. Find it and love it. Remind yourself everyday of your worth. Fill your life with people who know it. Know that this is the part of you which makes you light up. Start here.

Letting go

Letting go

Want to know what happens when you let those painful emotions out? What happens when you give in to the fight within yourself to keep them under wraps and out of sight?

The world does not end.

You do not fall apart.

You feel them, you release them, and you stop carrying them around.

*You stop carrying them around.*

I’m making it sound easy and of course when dealing with significant trauma it’s helpful to look at painful emotions with the support of a trained professional, but here is the crux of it: if the pain you’re feeling is heavy and causing you issues in your day to day life, it will be SO much easier when you’re not carrying it around with you everywhere you go.

Contrary to popular belief, feeling an emotion doesn’t make it worse. It doesn’t make it grow. It allows you to acknowledge the magnitude of the feeling, and allow it space to pass through and be honoured and released. It ends the shame cycle we feel when we try to deny and bury an emotion that clearly exists within us, that we don’t want to admit to. Denying it won’t make it go away, it makes it fester within us until it bubbles up anyway.

Let yourself feel whatever you’re feeling, without the judgement and meaning surrounding it. Give it space to be acknowledged and felt, and it will very quickly dissipate. Easier than trying to bury it, no?

Current reading inspiration: Letting Go by David R Hawkins.

And

And

Life is not all or nothing. It is not black and white. It is not either or. Neither are people. Neither am I. Neither are you.

Life is a consequence of all the tiny moments we stay present to: the moments we choose by tuning into what feels good and following our hearts, or shutting off our intuition and doing what we think we should, holding onto to what we think something should or needs to look like. These are our choices. They can never be taken away from us.

Life is not good or bad. It can be both, or neither. It can shift from one to the other or sit somewhere on the continuum, moving up and down depending on our perspective.

We are not the heroes or the heroine, not the devil or the sinner. We are just us. Moving through life, choosing experiences, moments, behaviours, reactions and thoughts based on how we perceive our reality. We are not fixed. We get to be fluid. We get to change. We get to change back. We get to move up and down on the continuum, and we will always, still, be good enough.

Your experience of now does not define who you are, it defines how you choose to be in this moment.

Getting through

Getting through

Just wanted to acknowledge all the people who are ‘getting through’ life right now. The people who’s plans have disappeared, who are grieving, who are just about hanging in there, hoping for something to hold on to soon, to those who have seen the worst of humanity, and are still willing to look for hope, for those who are holding others, even when no-one is holding them.

You are my heroes. You are showing up, and today, I hope you will see a sign that tells you it will be OK, and life will get better, because life is a series of tiny moments, and in any moment, your life can change. I know, I know, that’s such a cliche, and cliches are cliches because there’s often some truth in there.

In any case, I will always speak to love instead of fear. In my humble opinion, if I can choose to live with hope (even if that comes with disappointments), I would rather that and have a chance to feel love, than close my heart and live my life in fear.

Soul or ego?

Soul or ego?

Are you seeing the soul, or the ego?

Whenever we feel judged by someone, it’s either a mirror for us, or fear coming up for them. I realised today that sometimes I’m interacting with a person’s ego, rather than their soul.

Whenever an interaction doesn’t feel good for you, train yourself to check in – is your ego talking, or your soul? Are you responding to the needs of their ego, or to their soul’s?

Souls want love and peace and happiness for everyone. Egos are selfish and scared and defensive.

Souls see that we are all connected and can unite in love. Egos see themselves as separate and alone.

Souls want to bring us together. Egos want to keep us apart.

Souls are compassionate. Egos only see what they think will serve them.

Shift your focus. Look for the soul. When you interact from a soul level, that connection will give you the moments of happiness, love and completeness your ego craves but doesn’t know how to get

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How are you?

How are you?

Are you OK? How are you really?

I’ve had more conversations and ‘I’m concerned about [insert person’s name here]’ with people I care about this week than I have in a long time. I’m seeing people admitting they’re not OK, confide in me about wanting to or actually hurting themselves, heavy drinkers drinking even more than normal and recreational drug takers recognising their desire to use as a way to get away from what they’re feeling. I’ve been reaching out in my support network for even more support than usual because, well, these are unprecedented times and my mental wellness is essential for my….mental wellness?? (and obviously my work). And yet, I had an interview with week with @Coacharya (my coaching school), where we talked about how mental health is still so stigmatised that people still find it hard say when they’re not OK.

Sometimes they have a handy friend (ahem) who they know is totally OK with confessions of uncontrollable crying, numbing out, self-destructive substance / alcohol abuse, and sometimes when they finally say I’m not OK, they realise they’ve been holding it in for weeks, but didn’t know how to name it or what to do with it, and it feels like such a relief to admit it.

So this is my little PSA to myself and you, that your mental health is important, and just because everyone is going through difficult times right now, you are also entitled to your feelings, they are also valid, and it’s definitely OK to ask for support and to say you’re not OK if you’re not

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Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha

Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha

Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha – Mantra for Ganesh, the Remover of Obstacles.
Usage: when you’re ready to let go of anything that might be holding you back and want a fresh start / new beginning.
Every time your mind goes wandering, tells stories of the past that aren’t teaching you anything new, or stories of the future that are made up and may or may not ever happen, interrupt yourself with this mantra. Repeat it often, ideally 108 times as a form of meditation

Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha – Mantra for Ganesh, the Remover of Obstacles.

Usage: when you’re ready to let go of anything that might be holding you back and want a fresh start / new beginning.
Every time your mind goes wandering, tells stories of the past that aren’t teaching you anything new, or stories of the future that are made up and may or may not ever happen, interrupt yourself with this mantra. Repeat it often, ideally 108 times as a form of meditation

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What’s your why?

What’s your why?

What’s your why?

Why do you get up in the morning?
Why do you do your work / art?
Why are you kind to one person, one day, and unkind another?
Why are you compassionate with yourself, or not?
Why do you eat what you eat, or not eat what you don’t eat?
Why do you choose this path?

Are these choices supporting and loving the person you are now, and helping you become the person you want to be?
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The way to become…

The way to become…

Learn to love who you are, so you can be who you want to be.
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There are still some low cost coaching opportunities up for grabs – if you’re interested in a one off or course of sessions to remember how amazing you are and what you’re capable of, send me a message.
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