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I wish I had more to offer you at this time. I wish I had the answers or the tools or the shortcuts to help us navigate the things we’re all facing individually, and collectively.
The truth is, I don’t. I have tools, and have made meditations available for free on my website (email me if you want the link), and as A Course in Miracles so poignantly points out throughout, I do not know what anything is for.
I can choose to judge everything that is happening, and assign it good or bad or scary, and I can (and have) over consume information – like if I just keep reading I’ll find the answer.
Or I can use this time to surrender and sink deeply into my own understanding of what love is, honour you, and how you may be feeling and processing, respect each person’s choices and feelings, and use this time and space of change to let go of everything I thought I could control, and learn what we are truly capable of, when we turn our focus on what we can do to help each other and our world.
I choose not to fight. I choose to surrender. I choose to follow the guidelines set by our governments, with loving intention for global healing, without any attachment or stress about what that might look like or how it might come about. This is how I can be of service, in some very small way. Sending you love
Photo taken at: Pulukan, Bali, Indonesia
On a purely physical level, fear creates stress. Stress creates inflammation. Inflammation weakens the immune system.
On a spiritual level, ACIM teaches that all healing occurs at the level of the mind. Fear comes from a lack of acceptance of our experience. Peace and holistic wellness comes from a being with what is, doing what we need to do, without attachment or fear of any unknown outcomes. Knowing that all is well.
It is too easy to feel the collective energy of fear and lose ourselves in it. So I am reminded daily of my wellness, and that we are surrounded by love, if we choose to see it. All is well, and exactly as it is supposed to be for our higher learning and consciousness.
When I bring my attention to the still place inside me where I know love is, I can expand that sense of peace outwards and know there is no need to be afraid, and that we are all one. How can we support each other if not through expanding our sense of peace and love out into the world (and supporting our immune system in the process)?
Photo taken at: Uluwatu, Bali, Indonesia
What if you weren’t scared?
All my problems, big or small, can always be boiled down to thinking with thoughts of lack, attack or judgement. They come from making meaning of situations through the eyes of fear.
Noticing that pain, and understanding that if I am in pain, it’s because I’ve decided to see with fear instead of love, I can shift my perspective, choose to let go of the fear, and wonder what it might be like to see with love.
If there was another way of seeing this, a way that brought me peace, would I be open to seeing it? Am I willing to let go of my victimhood, and my ego need to be right and justified in my pain, in order to be free?
Photo taken at: Uluwatu Beach
Sometimes she felt like she was waiting. Waiting for everything to fall into place, for the moment when all the boxes were ticked and she knew she was on the right path with everything in order and accounted for. Then she could be content.
This was not real life, she knew. She knew that peacefulness was found in the moments between, in the breath of life itself and not in the accomplishments that came with it. And still, at times, this felt challenging as she slipped into the ego mindset of needing to achieve [something….anything], and the things that used to bring her comfort and joy didn’t seem enough or worthwhile anymore.
Still, these are the moments between, and we can choose to return to the peace in an instant, and listen to the whispers of our soul instead of our egos. Our soul is kind, loving and sweet. It nudges us instead of pushing with fear and intimidation. It’s purpose is love. It’s language is love. It’s outcome is love
Photo taken at: Balangan Beach
You can stop searching for answers now. Just choose love. Every time.
Don’t fight the struggle. If it feels stressful, or like you’re battling with something that doesn’t seem to want you to have what you want, stop. Wait. Accept what is and allow yourself to have patience and trust that whatever is meant for you is perfect, on it’s way, and will arrive with ease and grace.
Rest in what is. Sometimes we get so caught up in what we’ve decided we want or the way it’s supposed to be that we don’t even realise we’re stressing and pushing against ourselves. This is not how it is supposed to be! When we notice this, we can stop trying and allow instead. Just be with what is, knowing that everything is as it’s supposed to be having been fighting against myself for the last week or so on many many things
Photo taken at: Ubud, Bali, Indonesia
Where do you see beauty today? We have a choice. What do we choose to see?
I’ve worked with more than one client recently who realised that they were choosing to hold onto their own pain. They could see the light…just….but it was under a layer of pain that they were choosing on some level to hold on to.
Whenever I have more than one client experiencing the same thing, it’s normally an invitation to look within myself as well for the same thing. Where am I choosing to hold on to pain, instead of allowing it to transmute to love?
And the question then becomes….how do we ALLOW the pain to move (to transmute, shape shift, or move into the background)? For me, this work begins and ends in forgiveness. Forgiving ourselves, forgiving others, removing our judgements and opinions about victims and perpetrators, right and wrong and good and bad. Life happened. We had an experience. It felt painful. We saw it through the eyes of fear. How long do we want to continue to hold that pain? Will letting it in, accepting it and allowing it to move so we can see the light within, somehow mitigate or condone what happened?
It comes down to this: would we rather be right (I got hurt – I’m entitled to feel hurt), or happy (it happened, I don’t know why, so perhaps, I can see this situation with love instead of blame)?
Life is nothing but a series of choices. It doesn’t matter what we choose, because we will always have chosen the best path for us, to give us the experiences and opportunities we need to grow and choose love.
We cannot choose the ‘wrong’ path. Where do we think we will end up if we do? Can we be certain of what would have happened if we’d have chosen differently? Of course not. So, our choice becomes in any moment, do I choose to see this, where I am right now, with love, or with fear, and berate myself or wallow in self-pity? It’s not a case of judgement or obligation, it is merely a case of choosing the best feeling thought, to allow you to continue to move in alignment with your true self, and love
Photo taken at: Bali