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Are you seeing the soul, or the ego?
Whenever we feel judged by someone, it’s either a mirror for us, or fear coming up for them. I realised today that sometimes I’m interacting with a person’s ego, rather than their soul.
Whenever an interaction doesn’t feel good for you, train yourself to check in – is your ego talking, or your soul? Are you responding to the needs of their ego, or to their soul’s?
Souls want love and peace and happiness for everyone. Egos are selfish and scared and defensive.
Souls see that we are all connected and can unite in love. Egos see themselves as separate and alone.
Souls want to bring us together. Egos want to keep us apart.
Souls are compassionate. Egos only see what they think will serve them.
Shift your focus. Look for the soul. When you interact from a soul level, that connection will give you the moments of happiness, love and completeness your ego craves but doesn’t know how to get
Photo taken at: Pulukan, Bali, Indonesia
Are you OK? How are you really?
I’ve had more conversations and ‘I’m concerned about [insert person’s name here]’ with people I care about this week than I have in a long time. I’m seeing people admitting they’re not OK, confide in me about wanting to or actually hurting themselves, heavy drinkers drinking even more than normal and recreational drug takers recognising their desire to use as a way to get away from what they’re feeling. I’ve been reaching out in my support network for even more support than usual because, well, these are unprecedented times and my mental wellness is essential for my….mental wellness?? (and obviously my work). And yet, I had an interview with week with @Coacharya (my coaching school), where we talked about how mental health is still so stigmatised that people still find it hard say when they’re not OK.
Sometimes they have a handy friend (ahem) who they know is totally OK with confessions of uncontrollable crying, numbing out, self-destructive substance / alcohol abuse, and sometimes when they finally say I’m not OK, they realise they’ve been holding it in for weeks, but didn’t know how to name it or what to do with it, and it feels like such a relief to admit it.
So this is my little PSA to myself and you, that your mental health is important, and just because everyone is going through difficult times right now, you are also entitled to your feelings, they are also valid, and it’s definitely OK to ask for support and to say you’re not OK if you’re not
Photo taken at: Portugal
Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha – Mantra for Ganesh, the Remover of Obstacles.
Usage: when you’re ready to let go of anything that might be holding you back and want a fresh start / new beginning.
Every time your mind goes wandering, tells stories of the past that aren’t teaching you anything new, or stories of the future that are made up and may or may not ever happen, interrupt yourself with this mantra. Repeat it often, ideally 108 times as a form of meditation
What’s your why?
Why do you get up in the morning?
Why do you do your work / art?
Why are you kind to one person, one day, and unkind another?
Why are you compassionate with yourself, or not?
Why do you eat what you eat, or not eat what you don’t eat?
Why do you choose this path?
Are these choices supporting and loving the person you are now, and helping you become the person you want to be?
Learn to love who you are, so you can be who you want to be.
There are still some low cost coaching opportunities up for grabs – if you’re interested in a one off or course of sessions to remember how amazing you are and what you’re capable of, send me a message.
She listened to the wind outside her window, but no longer felt scared.
The wind could no more hurt her than the rest of her dream.
It could bang at the windows of her soul, but could not come in. It was no more real than the other dreams she dreamt, trying to keep herself safe from all the perceived dangers of the world.
Despite knowing for some years that all her thoughts produced form at some level, she only recently realised the power this gave her.
She could choose how she learned. She could choose how to grow.
She could choose what to heal, and how to truly see others.
She could choose to forgive, to not judge, to be humble, and above all, kind.
Every time she fell down on those things, she had the opportunity to learn them again, and try to do better.
The quicker she learned, the easier life became.
It all comes down to this – who did she choose to be?
Words to meditate on.
And nobody has to walk with you. Ever.
At some point, only Truth will satisfy. A living Truth, renewing itself each and every moment, the wild Truth of the open heart.
When Love and Truth are One, when the Commitment is deeply rooted in the breath, we can finally face each other without resentment, and explode into the most melancholy sunsets, held in the most profound joy.
Walking alone, together, alone. – Jeff Foster
Sometimes the quiet is the best place to be.
I’ve been so busy recently trying to be efficient. I’ve taken to listening to podcasts on my walks. They’re enlightening and informative, I am learning and I enjoy them, but in my efforts to kill two birds with one stone (I cannot have music or podcasts on when I’m at home or working – it creates anxiety for me!), I missed out on the beauty and the peacefulness of my local mountain range.
Birds sang, streams gurgled and the sun shone. Sometimes it’s helpful to strive for efficiency, and sometimes you miss out on the very benefits you were looking for because you’re trying to pay attention to too many things, consequently not paying full attention to either.
This was also the case last night, when, in my haste to get somewhere that did not need to be gotten to hastily, I forgot my shin-height dog gate was in place and went flying, resulting in four massive bruises, scraped knees and bruised palms. You have to laugh….and learn
Photo taken at: Wales