Emotional numbness. Over-worked. Exhausted. Frustrated.
All symptoms of a greater problem: not knowing how to be YOU, and make it work.
I just wanted to succeed, but I didn’t know how.
Not feeling happy, nor sad, not getting excited when you know you should. I knew intellectually how I was supposed to feel, but there was too much other stuff in the way. Expectations. Results. Being a ‘cool’ girlfriend. I felt anything but cool.
My work as your coach, counsellor, mentor, or whatever else you choose to call me, coaxes you out of living your life through other peoples’ expectations and helps you rediscover what it means to be you.
By lovingly reclaiming ourselves, we open up and share the very best of ourselves with those we love, and consequently inspire them to do the same.
It’s a movement. It’s changing the world one person at a time.
And I can’t wait to share it with you.
Over the years I’ve felt just about every emotion under the sun.
I went through my first year of university in uncontrollable panic. I didn’t leave my dorm room unless it was to go to lectures and had no idea why all my new friends seemed so normal, when I was feeling completely overwhelmed. I’m still not sure exactly how, but I found it within myself to ask for help, found a great therapist and was able to start yoga classes by my second year.
I loved yoga and the lack of judgment, of myself and from others, that came with it.
Nothing mattered in those moments.
Yoga became a constant in my life, until my confidence and control issues got the better of me again and I found myself starving and binging my body until I didn’t know which way was up and every waking moment was consumed by thoughts of food and calories and weight. I was so desperately unhappy without even realizing it.
I felt so out of control that eating became the one thing I thought I had a handle on. Ironically, it was probably the lowest point in my life. My relationship had failed, I was in a job that was absolutely wrong for me, and I lived alone with no friends locally.
During that time I was too weak to do yoga,
so instead I got on my mat and practiced meditation.
I read all I could and found a stillness and quiet that rarely made an appearance at any other time. Finally, after admitting I just couldn’t keep up the facade anymore, and an embarassing conversation between my boss at the time and my parents, I asked for help and went back into therapy and received the help, structure and healing I needed. In 2009, I decided to deepen my knowledge of yoga and completed my 250 hour Yoga Teacher Training with the renowned Conrad Paul, in London.
It shifted my perspective on the world and what we,
as human beings are capable of doing and feeling.
Soon after, I left the family business (which I joined straight from university after earning my BA (hons) in Human Resource Management and Membership to the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development) and set myself up in London. I got a job as a reception manager, quickly getting a reputation for being able to turn around problematic teams and coaching them into being the best versions of themselves. This lead to a speedy promotion to Senior Management with the UK’s leading Reception Management company and a job I loved, working with a team who made me laugh and beam with pride every day.
Despite this success and feeling pretty happy with myself and what I’d accomplished, I still didn’t feel I was in the right place.
I followed my intuition and signed up for my Advanced Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling. It took four years and a clinical placement in the bereavement service at the Royal London Hospital…and was worth every ounce of effort I put in to it. I’m also in the middle of another certificate in Therapeutic Life Coaching to give me even more ways of supporting you.
Right now, I’m getting to be ‘me’.
Exactly who I am, with no apologies. I have wonderful, loving, fun relationships and a career I couldn’t have dreamed of. Allowing the real me to come out has shown me just how much more I have to offer the world when I’m being authentic.
I am so grateful to be able to share what I’ve learned with you and take you out of the fear of perfectionism and people-pleasing and into the world of loving, honest and compassionate relationships. Yes, it’s totally possible, even for you <3
I’m sure by now you’ve decided if we could be best friends or at least whether I ‘get’ you. If that’s a yes, click here to find out more about working with me!